In part 1 and 2, I talked about the little "simple choices" that we have made that got us to where we are today. Most of them highly influenced by our subconscious mind. A part of our mind, that has been fed like a computer, to automatically spit out an overall picture of what is fed in. In other words, the emotions with the most thoughts attached, is the emotion that comes out first!
Let's say Your mind is a house, where one of the rooms has been rented out to a very well meaning, (an old friend) yet a very sloppy (negative) person.
Now this Old friend has lived there for years... (and may have already been given the eviction notice) With his "stuff" (negativity) spread throughout the house, which has also spilled out into the front yard. (Your face... no longer smiling) People are noticing and talking... You know this isn't the real you, because you have always like a clean house! So what can you do now??? Your house is full of his "stuff", and You know that all of his other places are over-flowing too! So how are You going to get him out??
Simple choices... Starting with not letting him bring in any more "stuff", (Stop listening to the negative chatter) and even maybe evicting him out of the house all together! That still doesn't get rid of all the "stuff" that is already there... It just stops more from coming in! So now what do I do with all this Stuff! How do I get rid of it... The HOUSE is FULL!
For the purpose of this picture You can't remove any of his "stuff" out of the house.... (Just like in Your mind, once it is in your head You can not totally remove it!) Yet here comes the good part, your House (mind) comes with a trash compactor! Now to the simple choices... to put the unused "stuff", into the compactor. (back of your mind) So how do I get to unpack and use my things (YOUR positive thoughts and emotions) when the house is already full???
The simple process of unpacking your "things" (YOUR positive thoughts and emotions) into your house (mind) makes it more crowded, yet letting you see which Stuff (negative thoughts) has to go first... into the compactor. (back of your mind) Thus, making a little more room!
After repeating this over and over, Your good "things" start to show on the outside of your house (face) too! And also in your yard (actions) as well !
With the help of others (positive friends) you can speed the process up.
Another tool that helps the clean-up process is the Hose. (Positive self-talk) With the hose You can wash that unwanted "stuff" right down into the basement in that drain (like the compactor, it holds the "stuff" to process, and to shrivel up to basically nothing ~ forgotten) Again, leaving more space for YOU!
Before long You are gaining, if not, in control of YOUR house!
All these were simple choices, NOT necessarily easy choices... It is not easy to clean up a WHOLE house full of JUNK! It is NOT easy to say NO to that negative thoughts! It just takes the simple choice of persistence, to keep making those little simple choices...
I hope I made my word picture clear enough, and didn't confuse you...LOL
Just some of my observations,
(with editing help of Trish Kirby)